Saturday, January 14, 2017

Chapter 20: The Aunty Syndrome and your life After B.E.!






Just as we reached the last topic of our thesis, we all heaved a sigh of relief. It was the same feeling that I used to enjoy on Friday afternoons – few more hours in the office and then two days off! We thought of ordering pizza, coke and a mocktail of lime juice and nectar.

Just as we all were thinking of the content for the last and final chapter, Chitragupta received a phone call. He looked a bit tense while talking to the person on the other side of the phone. “I will call you back”, Chitragupta said and abruptly disconnected the call. We got worried with his expression and asked him what was wrong.

“My nephew Chotagupta had just called up. He is twenty years old and weighs around a hundred kilograms. He had been to a temple near his house this morning. He told me that while he was reciting some mantras, an aged woman came up to him and offered prasad. Chotagupta is a good boy; so he took the offering and said, “thank you aunty” to that woman. Hearing that, the woman shouted at him in the presence of all others, “Do I look like an aunty to you? You elephant!” and went away. Poor Chotagupta must have been crying for very long because his voice was still so choked. He called me up to request me to fudge the account of deeds of that old lady in her existing afterlife. I might demote her to Hell…”

I then explained to my team that while I was on earth, even I had faced a similar dilemma – whether to call a lady behen or didi which means sister, or aunty. Before Chitragupta could take any further action, I asked him whether we could do a social experiment to find out whether any woman even in heaven or hell (just like earth) gets angry on being called an “aunty”. Chitragupta agreed and requested “Big Boss” to present before us forty-five women – right from the age of 20 to 65 – a mixture of women from heaven and hell. They were made to stand in increasing order of their age. So, the left-most woman (i.e. No. 1) was twenty years old and the right-most (i.e. No. 45) was 65 years old.

No. 1 was asked how she would address No. 2.
No. 1 smiled and said “didi”. No. 2 smiled too.
No. 1 was asked how she would address No. 3.
No. 1 smiled and said “didi”. No. 3 smiled too.

No. 1 was asked how she would address No. 15.
No. 1 hesitated a bit and said “hmm… I…. okay… I would call her didi”. No. 15 smiled back with relief.

No. 1 was asked how she would address No. 18. Now she started hesitating even more and finally settled on a new relation “elder didi”.

We all were puzzled, “what the fuck is an elder didi?” A didi is itself a synonym for an elder sister. So, elder didi meant elder elder sister. This made no sense; but we didn’t want to make her uncomfortable, so we okayed that answer.

Now, No. 1 was asked how she would address No. 20.
No. 1 said with a straight face, “Aunty, of course”.

You should have seen the anger on No. 20’s face! Seriously, she could not control her anger and shouted, “What the hell is wrong with you? You call a 38-year-old woman didi and woman only a couple of years older to her an aunty? From where did you learn Mathematics? Huh? The difference between 38 and 40 is only 2. And if you take the ratio of that difference and my age, it comes to hardly 0.05. So, just because of that small difference, you are calling me an aunty? How dare you call me aunty?”

No. 1 started crying and finally said, “Sorry No. 20 didi.”
“That’s better”, replied No. 20 and the matter was settled.

We continued our experiment to see whether there exists a concept called “Aunty”.

Now, No. 1 did not want to risk her life more than she already had but we did not spare her the horror. We asked her how she would address No. 25.
No. 1 meekly said, “Aunty”.
Just as the word “aunty” was uttered by No.1, No.25 started belching out the choicest of words from the bottom of her heart. The normal MC, BC, C#$#ya, etc., are nothing in front of what she started spilling out. Her logic was simple – if you call a woman ONLY 5 years younger to her a didi, then she should be called the same.

The experiment went on till No. 45 and till the end, No. 1 was on the verge of virtual death. You won’t be surprised to hear that even No.45, i.e. the eldest among the lot, the 65-year-old woman was just a didi, too. Hence, proved- Aunty is just an abstract concept. There is no female – dead or alive; in heaven or hell – who can be termed as aunty.

After this experiment, Chitragupta hurriedly sent all those women back to their respective places and we lay down for a siesta. I thought of completing this chapter by myself. Life of an engineering student after graduation is as abstract as the ‘Aunty’ concept. You will have no clarity on what you are going to do after five years. You will trust your fate and take the best opportunity that comes your way at that time. You start walking down the road of a foggy future. When I was in X grade, I was told by my parents, uncles and aunties that I should become an engineer so that I would secure a good job and get a beautiful wife by the age of 25. I was also told that girls go crazy after engineers and that was also given as one of the potential reasons to become one. The thought of being swarmed by crazy beautiful girls made me study harder, secure good marks in XII grade and I got enrolled in the best engineering college in Mumbai. The “Beauty x Brain = Constant” equation is so damn true! Before reaching hell following an accident in my Skoda, I was a 29-year-old software engineer and still single! That should tell you what happens after graduating as an engineer.

So what exactly is the life of an engineering student after he passes out of college? Let me paint two extremes of what your life would be after becoming an engineer. Most of the times, your life will oscillate between these two extremes.

The Best Scenario:
1)     You get placed in one of the biggest and most famous companies in India.
2)     Your salary is good enough to rent a fully furnished flat near your office. You wake up late, walk for five minutes and you are in the office!
3)     Your company doesn’t believe in keeping bulky desktops and hence each employee is assigned a laptop.
4)     Your company believes in the true potential of its employees and hence doesn’t block any site! You can post photos on FB, chat on Gmail, blog on Wordpress, and do lots more.
5)     On reaching office, you directly head to the canteen and face the problem of plenty! You have around fifteen types of snacks to choose from. You take a pic of those options and post it on Facebook via your iPhone 5 and ask your friends what you should eat!
6)     Your friends start suggesting what breakfast item to choose; but you ignore them as you didn’t care a damn about their feedback in the first place! All you wanted was to flaunt your problem of plenty!
7)     You go to your desk and open Facebook, Gmail, Yahoo and a few messengers and then open Microsoft Outlook to see if you have any work to do.
8)     Fortunately, you are on bench, i.e. you have been recruited by your company with the hope of using your expertise for a project that is supposed to be won.
9)     You keep forwarding funny emails to your friends and reply to their mails instantly!
10) It’s noon now and time for a lavish lunch. Since you are working in such a lavish office and your salary is also very good, you choose to go to a nearby restaurant for lunch.
11) After spending around an hour and a half at the restaurant, your friend tells you that it’s time to leave for office and you say, “Chuck it, man! Anyway we don’t have any work in office. So chill, bro!”
12)Finally, you lift your lazy ass and go to your desk only to start chatting on FB and messengers!
13) The clock strikes 5 and it’s time to head home!
14)You ask your girlfriend for a movie and then a nice dinner. That’s the perfect way to end the day!
15) On occasions such as festivals, your company gives you huge bonuses and your mother flaunts your gifts to Mrs. Sharma, Mrs. Chaddha and Mrs. Verma. After your mother leaves the group, these three mothers crib about the kind of pathetic lives their kids live!

The Worst Scenario:

1)     You get placed in a small but aggressively growing company. The company’s motto might mean something like “Our employees will work their asses off but we will make sure that our clients are happy! For us, clients are Gods and employees are just bonded labourers! We give them salary and hence we own them!”
2)     Your salary is not good enough to rent a fully furnished flat near your office. You are already burdened by home loans, bike loans, etc. You travel to office by trains and buses and waste more than two and a half hours one way every day!
3)     Your company feels that employees do better work when they are under surveillance of Project Managers and it also believes in keeping bulky desktops. Laptops are assigned only to Managers and employees more important than that.
4)     Your company believes that the more an employee sits in front of a computer, the more he works! The company also believes that since it pays you to work, not even a single second of your office time should be wasted on Facebook, Gmail, etc. You come to office to work and that is the only thing you should do!
5)     On reaching office after a tiring two-and-a-half-hour journey, you directly head to the canteen and face the problem of scarcity! You have around four types of snacks to choose from – upma, meduwada, poha or omlette! You take a pic of those four options and post it on FB via your cheap phone and ask your friends what you should eat!
6)     You wait for fifteen minutes to see if anyone comments. And then suddenly you find two new comments: “Subah hui nahi ki shuru wapis rona! Chod de na fir wo company” and “Mummy ko bol dabba ghar se. Rotlu saala.” After being chided in the public comments as a cry-baby, you end up deleting those pictures and comments in order to save face in front of those who had not seen the pictures till then.
7)     You go to your desk and open Microsoft Outlook and pray to God that client didn’t have any problem with your delivery last evening.
8)     As per Murphy’s Law, if something bad has to happen, it will happen. You find your mailbox flooded with an escalation from the client. Since an escalation from the client is a big problem for the company, the Delivery Head asks the Delivery Manager for an explanation. The Delivery Manager asks Project Manager for an explanation. The Project Manager asks your Project Lead for an explanation and he in turn asks you, “You fucked this one up again?”
9)     You try to save your ass, but in vain. You stare at Microsoft Outlook wondering what bad deeds you must have done to become an employee of that particular company. To add to this pain, your friends from other companies will keep forwarding you “Good Morning” mails or Jokes or funny pictures and they also plan an outing over the next weekend.
10) It’s already two hours past your lunch time and you are still struggling to solve the problem faced by your client. You finally choose to halt and take a ten-minute break to eat a bowl of vegetables, one piece of cucumber and four chapatis – the tiffin packed by your mother.
11)It is a law of office life that your boss will come to your desk only when you are not there. Just as you come to your seat after the brief lunch break, your boss pokes at you, “You are never at your seat when I come to ask for an update.” You just look at him and wonder what to say!
12) The clock strikes 5 and now it’s officially the time to head home! But wait, who will complete the work? So, you just stick your ass on that chair till you complete the work.
13) Your girlfriend has been pinging you on your phone since morning that she wants to watch a movie with you in the evening and then go for a romantic dinner. Since you are busy as usual, you refuse to go ahead with her plan. Since she is a normal human being, she reaches the threshold of her patience and types the words that you don’t want to read: “You don’t have time for me. So suck your $#@# yourself! I am blocking you on FB, Gmail, Whatsapp… everywhere!” You just keep staring at those words and suddenly your boss comes and asks for a status update one more time! Since you were busy with your phone, you should be ready for another dressing down!
14) While your friends from other companies are busy enjoying festivals with their respective families and friends, you are busy in office.
15) On Diwali or other such occasions, your company gives you a packet of dry fruits – 25 gms of almonds, 25 gms of pistacheos, 25 gms of resins and 2 small bars of chocolate! Your mother sees that gift and curses your company yet again! Mrs. Sharma, Mrs. Chaddha and Mrs. Verma of your society flaunt the various sweets, gifts and bonuses that their kids got from their offices while your mom looks at them with moist eyes! You go to sleep to wake up again to follow the same routine!

Since this is the last chapter in our thesis on the life of engineering students, we thought of being a little serious and talk about whether “To B.E. or not to B.E?”

When our parents were growing up, i.e. in the mid or late 1970s, B.Sc., B.Com., or B.A. were the most popular options available for them to graduate. “Engineering” was for the creme de la crème. Also, the number of engineering colleges was very less and as a result, most of our parents could not become engineers even if they wished to. But, that desire didn’t quite vanquish from their hearts. As it happens in every generation, kids are made to (or at least coaxed to) achieve what their parents could not. I am not saying that parents are selfish or anything. No! All I am trying to say is that parents think that ‘engineering’ was the best option back then and hence the same is applicable in current times, too. I am very sure that most of the adults in the current generation who could not do MBA from the IIMs or the best of colleges in India would make sure that their kids get a chance to be postgraduates from these business school and hence live a better life than the kind of life they lived. I personally know a friend who is fat, intelligent, never cared for his fitness and couldn’t do MBA from IIM Ahmadabad. He used to tell us (his friends from earth) very often that he would want his son/daughter to be IIM A graduate and a national level champion in karate!

Engineering is a science and a skill which has to be studied diligently and with interest. You need to know how to implement what you read in the four years of engineering. Learning by rote the problems from Electrical Machinery by P.S Bhimbra or C ++ programs from Let us C ++ by Yeshwant Kanetkar won’t help you become a good engineer. You can pass out of an engineering college with good marks and join some software company, go abroad, earn in dollars and pounds and have a good life; no doubt about it. But, that will not justify your becoming an engineer. I would like to take my own example. I am an electrical engineer. But I never took interest in understanding how an electrical motor runs. Frankly, I didn’t care! All I cared about was a good job at the end of my degree. I was fascinated about going abroad and hence joining some software company seemed to be the best bet. I have spent eight years in the same industry and have authored two books. The fact that I did something different by writing two books gives me a much bigger sense of achievement in life than becoming an electrical engineer.

The point is that it is necessary for you to figure out what you want to achieve from your four years of engineering. Some people might ask you, “Then why the hell did you waste an engineer’s seat?” Look straight into the eyes of that person and say, “There is no fucking guarantee that that student would have done justice to the engineering seat, either! It’s my damn life. I worked my ass off to become an engineer and now it’s up to me to do what I want to do in life. So, please fuck off!” and show them a middle finger!

You and only you are answerable to yourself. Do you want to become a software engineer even after learning the in and out about Civil engineering or do you want to design the best of cars after becoming a mechanical engineer? You will have to figure out the answer by yourself. Your friends, teacher, parents, etc., will be there to guide you.

As the saying goes, “you are the sculptor of your own life”, you need to decide what you want to do after engineering and not hesitate when someone asks you
“To B.E or not to B.E.?”


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“I love you Dipuu…” Vidya held my hand tight, not being able to hold her feelings anymore! “Will you marry me?” she asked.
“Hell, yeah!” I blurted out!

“Will you marry me?” Aditya asked Veena with some hesitation.
“Hmm… Okay… But there is a disclaimer!” said Veena.
I am sure Aditya could have said yes to any damn thing in the world at that time and said the same, “Anything for you, baby.”


Chitragupta looked at us with a smile. This thesis had brought four hearts together. Who says we live a life only on earth! ;-)

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